As we celebrate the unique, messy, bittersweet and joyous world of adoption this month, I asked the experts for their take.
These experts were easy to find and offered insights pro bono. As they should. They are, after all, my children.
I posed two questions to my internationally-adopted, now adult, children: What do you think about adoption as an adopted person and, how would you counsel someone considering adoption? I told them to write from their hearts.
First my daughter Marisa, born in Peru, a tough little cookie at 5’2’’ and 115 pounds soaking wet. She works at a bank by day and is a competitive boxer in her spare time. She was thrilled that I asked her. “Being adopted makes me feel extremely blessed. I have opportunities that I would never have had otherwise. I am so lucky and thankful for my amazing family who adopted me and raised me. To anyone considering adopting I would say that it’s the biggest blessing you could give a child like me. I love that my mom works at Wide Horizons. They do great work and bring families together”.
Now my son Robert, born in El Salvador. Robert is an avid news junkie and reader. His general knowledge floors me some time. He knows the most arcane facts. He is a dog lover and trainer and is writing a book in his spare time. He wrote: “As someone who was adopted as an infant, I know my life would have been vastly different if I hadn’t been given this chance. My family, while imperfect, is the right one for me. Adoption gave me a second chance at life. By adopting a child living in traumatizing circumstances, you are giving that child another shot at life. My birth mother was brave enough to let me fly off with another family to another country, not knowing if she’d ever see me again. For her bravery and compassion I owe it to her to be the best son that I am capable of being. Children need forever homes that promise love. Only people with empathy and compassion can alter these children’s lives. Thank you for considering adoption”.
Strong words. After all they are the experts! Happy adoption month everyone.
— Janice Hoffman
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